’12 Years A Slave’ Wins Big At 2014 Golden Globes



Kerry Washington stole the red carpet with her adorable baby bump, but unfortunately for the talented actress, she left the 2014 Golden Globes empty-handed.

The “Scandal” star, who rocked a form-fitting Balenciaga gown and stunning mother-to-be glow, lost her nomination for Best Actress in a TV Drama to “House of Cards” leading lady Robin Wright.

Lupita Nyong’o, who was named this awards show season’s style star, wore a red silk Ralph Lauren cape dress — too bad she wasn’t able to show off the look onstage when the award for Best Supporting Actress was presented. The 12 Years a Slave breakout star lost her nomination to Jennifer Lawrence of American Hustle.

Idris Elba, who won his first Golden Globe in 2012, also left without a win. He was nominated for Best Actor in a Motion Picture Drama for his role as Nelson Mandela and for Best Actor in a Mini-Series or TV Movie for “Luther.”

On a brighter note, Steve McQueen’s 12 Years a Slave, which lead the race with seven nods, walked away with the biggest award of the night, Best Drama!

Other big winners included Mandela: Long Walk to Freedom for Best Original Song, “Breaking Bad” for Best Television Series and Leonardo DiCaprio for Best Actor in a Musical or Comedy for his work in The Wolf of Wall Street.

Congrats to all the winners!



Best Gift Ever: Mom Photographs 5-Year-Old Daughter As History’s Most Iconic Women



Photographer Jamie Moore decided to give her daughter a gift to remember for her fifth birthday.

Instead of a traditional photo shoot as a Disney princess, the Texas mother decided to dress her daughter Emma as five of history’s most historic women.

“I had been searching everywhere for new-creative inspiration for her 5yr pictures. I noticed quite a pattern of so many young girls dressing up as beautiful Disney Princesses, no matter where I looked 95% of the “ideas” were the “How to’s” of how to dress your little girl like a Disney Princess,” she explained on her website. “Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE Disney Princesses, from their beautiful dresses, perfect hair, gorgeous voices and most with ideal love stories in the mix you can’t help but become entranced with the characters. But it got me thinking, they’re just characters, a writers tale of a princess (most before 1998)…an unrealistic fantasy for most girls.”

She went on to say that she grew inspiration from women like Susan B. Anthony, Helen Keller and Amelia Earhart.

“It started me thinking about all the REAL women for my daughter to know about and look up too, REAL women who without ever meeting Emma have changed her life for the better,” she wrote. “My daughter wasn’t born into royalty, but she was born into a country where she can now vote, become a doctor, a pilot, an astronaut, or even President if she wants and that’s what REALLY matters. I wanted her to know the value of these amazing women who had gone against everything so she can now have everything.”

From thousands of unbelievable women, check out which five heroines Moore choose her image remakes.








Too Cute! Karaoke-Singing Couple Goes Viral



Happily-married couple Will and Monifa Sims are YouTube’s latest viral sensation!

The lovebirds got their moment of shine on Pumpcast News, a regular prank series on “The Tonight Show” with Jay Leno. An everyday-trip to the gas station in Burbank, Calif. turned into a karaoke showdown — hubby and wife style!

Will and Monifa Sims

Check out the Sims belting out their version of Eurythmics’ “Sweet Dreams” below. Trust us, you will fall in love with their relationship!

Next stop, The Tonight Show! Watch what happens when they take a visit to see Jay Leno.


Thanks But No Thanks: How To Decline A Bridesmaid Invitation


“Would you like to be my bridesmaid?”

With engagement season behind us (most proposals take place between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day), and the spring wedding season in full swing, many brides-to-be are planning their nuptial ceremonies and and every detail for the big day.

One of the most influential factors of a bride’s experience are her bridesmaids — the women who will offer emotional support, attend every rehearsal and dish out serious cash for their dress, shoes and accessories.

By definition, that’s a big responsibility. It’s expensive, time-consuming, and if you are dealing with a bridezilla, it can be very stressful. Depending on where you are in your life — in graduate school, unemployed, living out of the state or planning your own wedding — it may be the most logical to decline the invitation.

Now, weddings are a joyous celebration and if the bride is a close family member or friend you should feel honored that she’d like to share her happy occasion with you. However, it is okay to say no. It’s better to decline up front than to drop out last minute.

Here are a few tips to help you decline without feeling guilty.

1. Say your not comfortable with the role of bridesmaid.
It’s important to support your loved ones — even if it means sucking your teeth, wearing an unflattering dress and sacrificing your time. However, if you are not comfortable being a bridesmaid, there’s no golden rule saying you must accept the invitation. Ask for a different, smaller role. There are multiple tasks that a bride may need help with on her wedding day. Opt to handle the guestbook, organize the gift table or cut the cake.

2. Respond how you would want a friend to respond to you.
Be gracious and polite, but the most importantly honest. Be straightforward: “I’m not in a place financially to afford this commitment” or “I may not have the time right now to be the best bridesmaid that I can be.” It’s better to be honest in the beginning than to regret your decision down the line. Plus, the bride should want her wedding party to participate because they genuinely want to; not because they felt obligated or forced.

3. Remember, it’s not about you.
Even though you are declining for your own personal reasons, let the bride know that you still care about her big day. Weddings can be a frustrating ordeal and you’d never want the bride to think that you are jealous or not 100 percent happy for her in any way. Remember that turning down a bridesmaid position doesnt relieve you of your roles as a friend, so continue on with your same friendly pre-wedding duties. Sometimes friendships mean sacrifice.


8 Lessons We Learned From Barack & Michelle Obama’s Commencement Speeches


Rain or shine, President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama withheld their commitments and gave commencement speeches at two HBCU graduation ceremonies this weekend.

The Commander-in-Chief addressed the new grads of Morehouse College, and the FLOTUS delivered her remarks to the students and families of Bowie State University.

While both Obamas made extraordinary points, Michelle was spot on about education issues that affect African Americans and Barack stressed the importance of giving back to the community.

Check out our favorite excerpts and lessons from both must-hear speeches below.

1. Giving back is just has important has working toward your dreams. (President Obama)

“I know some of you came to Morehouse from communities where life was about keeping your head down and looking out for yourself. Maybe you feel like you escaped, and you can take your degree, get a fancy job and never look back. And don’t get me wrong – with the heavy weight of student loans, with doors open to you that your parents and grandparents could scarcely imagine, no one expects you to take a vow of poverty. But I will say it betrays a poverty of ambition if all you think about is what goods you can buy instead of what good you can do. Yes, go get that law degree. But if you do, ask yourself if the only option is to defend the rich and powerful, or if you can also find time to defend the powerless,” the President said. “Sure, go get your MBA, or start that business, we need black businesses out there. But ask yourself what broader purpose your business might serve, in putting people to work, or transforming a neighborhood.”

“The most successful CEOs I know didn’t start out intent on making money, rather, they had a vision of how their product or service would change things, and the money followed,” he added.

2. Inspire those who look up to you to expect more of themselves. (President Obama)

“We know that too many young men in our community continue to make bad choices. Growing up, I made a few myself. And I have to confess, sometimes I wrote off my own failings as just another example of the world trying to keep a black man down,” he said. “I had a tendency to make excuses for me not doing the right thing. But one of the things that all of you have learned over the last four years is, there’s no longer any room for excuses.”

3. Career success means nothing without success at home. (President Obama)

“I still wish I had a father who was not only present, but involved. And so my whole life, I’ve tried to be for Michelle and my girls what my father wasn’t for my mother and me. I’ve tried to be a better husband, a better father, and a better man.” he said. “Even now, I’m still learning how to be the best husband and father I can be. Because success in everything else is unfulfilling if we fail at family.”

“I know that when I’m on my deathbed someday, I won’t be thinking about any particular legislation I passed, or policy I promoted. I won’t be thinking about the speech I gave, or the Nobel Prize I received,” he continued. “I’ll be thinking about a walk I took with my daughters, a lazy afternoon with my wife, whether I did right by all of them.”

4. A degree is not everything. (President Obama)

“Whatever success I achieved, whatever positions of leadership I’ve held, have depended less on Ivy League degrees or SAT scores or GPAs, and have instead been due to that sense of empathy and connection – the special obligation I felt, as a black man like you, to help those who needed it most; people who didn’t have the opportunities that I had, because but for the grace of God, I might be in their shoes. So it’s up to you to widen your circle of your concern – to create greater justice both in your own community, but also across our country. To make sure everyone has a voice; everyone gets a seat at the table; to make sure that everyone – no matter what they look like or where they come from, or who they love – gets a chance to walk through those doors of opportunity if they want it bad enough.”

5. Too many young people fantasize about becoming ball players and rappers, opposed to teachers and lawyers. (First Lady Michelle)

“Today, more than 150 years after the Emancipation Proclamation, more than 50 years after the end of ‘separate but equal,’ when it comes to getting an education, too many of our young people just can’t be bothered. Today, instead of walking miles every day to school, they’re sitting on couches for hours playing video games, watching TV. Instead of dreaming of being a teacher or a lawyer or a business leader, they’re fantasizing about being a baller or a rapper,” she said and the audience applauded. “Right now, one in three African American students are dropping out of high school. Only one in five African Americans between the ages of 25 and 29 has gotten a college degree — one in five.”

6. Education is for everybody. (First Lady Michelle)

“As my husband has said often, please stand up and reject the slander that says a black child with a book is trying to act white. Reject that,” she said. “In short, be an example of excellence for the next generation.”

7. People who are more educated live longer. (First Lady Michelle)

“Today, getting an education is as important if not more important than it was back when this university was founded. Just look at the statistics. [Applause] People who earn a bachelor’s degree or higher make nearly three times more money than high school dropouts, and they’re far less likely to be unemployed. A recent study even found that African American women with a college degree live an average of six and a half years longer than those without. And for men, it’s nearly 10 years longer. So yes, people who are more educated actually live longer.”

8. Be proactive. (First Lady Michelle)

“If the school in your neighborhood isn’t any good, don’t just accept it. Get in there, fix it. Talk to the parents. Talk to the teachers. Get business and community leaders involved as well, because we all have a stake in building schools worthy of our children’s promise.”

“And when it comes to your own kids, if you don’t like what they’re watching on TV, turn it off. [Applause] If you don’t like the video games they’re playing, take them away. [Applause] Take a stand against the media that elevates today’s celebrity gossip instead of the serious issues of our time. Take a stand against the culture that glorifies instant gratification instead of hard work and lasting success.”

Check out the full-length speeches below and weigh in on your favorite parts in the comment section.


Say, What? New Pregnancy Prevention Campaign Features Pregnant Teen Boys



Photos from a new pregnancy prevention campaign in Chicago has many city bus and train riders turning their heads. “Unexpected,” the Chicago Department of Public Health’s latest effort to help reduce teenage pregnancy, features images of pregnant boys.

Sources say the teen birth rate in the Windy City is 150 percent higher than the national average. According to CDPH officials, the campaign is meant “to instill the idea that teen parenthood is not just a girl’s responsibility.”

The department urges teens to visit BeYouBeHealthy.org and Sexedloop.com for more information on safe sex, abstinence and birth control.

What do you think of this taboo ad? Effective or no?


5 Fun Dating Tips From Niecy Nash


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Do you want to get a man, keep a man and stay in love? Niecy Nash says she has all the answers.

The happily-married actress and matchmaking guru recently released her first book, It’s Hard To Fight Naked, which she describes as a tale of her “crazy experiences” with love.

“I believe with my whole heart that love is the thing we were created for, yet it’s also the place where we struggle the most,” Nash wrote in a blog post on her site. “Let me just invite you all to think differently.”

No matter what stage you find yourself in the relationship game, Nash said she has “some valuable information that is necessary for the journey.”

I wrote a book with the hopes of encouraging & inspiring you to receive God’s best for you. I don’t claim to an “expert”, I’m just a woman who has been through it! I’ve been desperately single, an internet dater, married, divorced, and happily re-married. I want to share all of these crazy experiences with you! I am also providing REAL strategies on how to get and maintain the relationship you deserve.

You guys know I consider myself a bit of a matchmaker after I introduced Sherri Shepherd to Lamar Salley and a year later they were engaged! I love Sherri so much and just like I helped her find a husband, I want to help you! No matter what stage you find yourself in the relationship game, I have some valuable information that is necessary for the journey.

Now, let’s take a look at 5 love and dating tips from Ms. Jay Tucker. Be sure to let us know if you agree!

1. The title of her book tells it all.

“You will learn a lot about yourself, the opposite sex, how traditional myths have gotten us of track, and ultimately how hard it is to fight naked. If you start naked you might avoid a fight altogether!”

2. Date for your priorities, not your preferences.

“People always say, ‘How did you meet your husband? How did you get this kind of relationship? God, you guys seem so good together and perfectly matched.’ I’m like, ‘Okay, let me tell you how to get the man who’s perfectly matched for you,’ you know, and it starts with—and this is a conversation I had with Sherri, let me tell you what, because Sherri was still at a place when she met Lamar where she wanted to date for her preferences as opposed to her priorities.”

3. Don’t be afraid of online dating.

“Let me tell you what. I was on Match.com, Black People Meet. I was on Christian Singles and BlackWomenWithWeavesAndKids.org or something like that.”

4. You attract what you are.

“The biggest problem that women make, or people make in getting a relationship, is you jump in when you’re not your best self. You draw that similar energy to you.”

5. Take a selfie everyday. 

“I would take pictures everyday because I wanted him to see what he was missing.”


It’s Hard to Fight Naked is in stories now.